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12 False Myths About Public Speaking That Keep People Silent

June 10, 2024 | Leave a Comment

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Public speaking can be a daunting task for many, often hindered by pervasive myths that instill fear and doubt. These misconceptions can prevent individuals from expressing themselves effectively in various settings, from boardrooms to stages. By debunking these myths, we empower ourselves to communicate with confidence and clarity, unlocking new opportunities for personal and professional growth.

Myth 1: You Must Be a Natural Born Speaker

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One of the most persistent myths is that effective public speakers are born with innate talent. While some individuals may possess natural charisma, public speaking is a skill that can be developed through practice and dedication. Countless successful speakers have honed their craft through coaching, workshops, and consistent performance, dispelling the notion that it’s an exclusive gift bestowed upon a select few.

Myth 2: Fear Will Always Paralyze You

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Fear of public speaking is incredibly common, but it doesn’t have to be debilitating. Contrary to popular belief, nervousness can actually enhance performance by heightening focus and energy. Techniques such as deep breathing, visualization, and positive self-talk can help individuals manage anxiety and channel it into dynamic presentations.

Myth 3: Memorization Equals Success

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Many people believe that memorizing their speech verbatim is the key to success. However, this approach often leads to robotic delivery and increased anxiety if a line is forgotten. Instead, speakers should focus on understanding their material thoroughly and practicing improvisation. This allows for greater flexibility and authenticity, fostering a stronger connection with the audience.

Myth 4: You Need to Be Perfect

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Perfectionism is a common barrier to effective public speaking. While striving for excellence is commendable, expecting flawless performances sets unrealistic standards. Embracing authenticity and vulnerability can actually make presentations more relatable and engaging. Audiences appreciate speakers who are genuine and humble, rather than ones who appear overly rehearsed or polished.

Myth 5: People Will Judge You Harshly

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The fear of judgment often prevents individuals from speaking up in public settings. However, audiences are typically more supportive and forgiving than we imagine. Most people empathize with the nervousness of speakers and admire their courage for stepping onto the stage. By reframing perceived criticism as constructive feedback, speakers can grow and improve with each presentation.

Myth 6: It’s All About Speaking, Not Listening

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Effective communication is a two-way street that involves both speaking and listening. While delivering a compelling message is important, actively engaging with the audience is equally crucial. Encouraging questions, soliciting feedback, and fostering dialogue create a more interactive and memorable experience for everyone involved.

Myth 7: Only Extroverts Can Succeed

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There’s a common misconception that only extroverted individuals excel in public speaking. In reality, introverts possess unique strengths, such as deep introspection and active listening, that can make them highly effective communicators. By embracing their natural tendencies and leveraging techniques like preparation and rehearsal, introverts can shine just as brightly on stage.

Myth 8: Visual Aids Are Always Necessary

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While visual aids can enhance presentations, they’re not always essential. Over-reliance on slides or props can detract from the speaker’s message and create distractions. Speakers should use visual aids sparingly and purposefully, ensuring they enhance rather than overshadow their verbal communication.

Myth 9: You Have to Follow a Formula

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Many public speaking resources promote rigid formulas or templates for crafting speeches. While these frameworks can be helpful for beginners, they shouldn’t stifle creativity or authenticity. Speakers should feel empowered to experiment with different styles and formats, tailoring their approach to suit their unique personality and audience.

Myth 10: Age or Experience Determines Success

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Some individuals believe that only seasoned professionals or older individuals can command attention as public speakers. However, age and experience are not prerequisites for effective communication. Young people and novices bring fresh perspectives and enthusiasm to the stage, captivating audiences with their authenticity and passion.

Myth 11: Failure Is Inevitable

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Failure is often viewed as a looming specter that can derail public speaking efforts. While setbacks are a natural part of the learning process, they shouldn’t define one’s journey. Embracing failure as an opportunity for growth and resilience can ultimately lead to greater success and mastery in public speaking.

Myth 12: Public Speaking Is Reserved for the Elite

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Public speaking is often associated with high-profile figures or expert authorities. However, everyone has the potential to develop their speaking skills and share their unique perspective with the world. Whether speaking to a small group or a large audience, each individual has the power to inspire, educate, and influence others through effective communication.

Speak Up and Stand Out

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By dispelling these false myths, we empower ourselves to embrace public speaking as a powerful tool for personal and professional growth. Through practice, perseverance, and a willingness to challenge conventional wisdom, anyone can become a confident and impactful speaker. So let go of fear, embrace authenticity, and let your voice be heard. The world is waiting to listen.

Ashleigh Clyde
Ashleigh Clyde

Ashleigh Clyde is a dedicated youth advocate, journalist, and researcher. Passionate about shedding light on important issues, such as financial literacy and marketing tactics. She has extensive experience in entertainment journalism.

Filed Under: Education Tagged With: Fear, myths, public speaking, silence, You Need to Be Perfect

My Wife’s Biggest Money Fear

January 10, 2013 | 3 Comments

biggest money fearDealing with family finances can be hard, no matter what philosophy of money you fall into: keeping things in one pot or keeping things separate.  The bottom line is that everyone will have fears about money – not having enough, not doing the right thing for saving for retirement, or maybe how to raise a family on a budget.

For my wife, her biggest money fear is not knowing.  We fall into the philosophy of having a shared pot for everything.  Both our paychecks go into one checking account, and we pay all of our bills from it.  We also share two credit cards, so we can maximize rewards.  That’s where we do all of our spending.

However, because of the simple logistics of processing bill payments, sometimes one or the other just handles it.  But then the real questions comes up – was it handled?  How much do we have left?  Do you have a scheduled payment that I don’t know about, so we really don’t have $X in our checking account?

That’s a valid fear.  Here is what we’re doing about it.

 

Where Her Money Fear Comes From

Getting married is great, but it is also tough when it comes to money.  We were both two single people who managed our castles just fine.  We didn’t need help, and we had full control.  We both admit that we’re pretty Type-A, so giving up control is hard.  Even though we both trust each other 100%, it’s still hard.

My wife’s fear comes from a self-admitted place of not having control.  For example, before Christmas, when our spending was probably at it’s peak getting ready for family dinners and buying gifts, she was very stressed because she didn’t see every single transaction each day – I was spending too.  It was hard for her.

While I don’t get to the same place, I can relate to when she spends and I don’t know where the money is going as well.

 

Solutions for Overcoming My Wife’s Biggest Money Fear

Since overcoming my wife’s biggest money fear was the most important challenge in our marriage, here are some of the solutions that we’ve put into place that have been working well for us.  While they may not work for everyone, they have helped eliminate 90% of the fear.

Shared and Agreed Upon Organization

The first thing is coming up with a shared and agreed upon system for keeping everything financial organized.  A huge part of fear comes from just not knowing.  So make sure that you both put into place a system where you will know.

For us, we rely on two key systems:

  1. Quicken
  2. HomeFile

For Quicken, we have all of our accounts synced so that in one update, either of us can get a clear picture of where we stand financially.  Quicken is great for our household finances because it will pull from all of our accounts, and show all of our recent transactions.  Plus, it has a lot of great reports that either of us can view, so we can really get a clear picture of our spending.

HomeFile is our way of organizing all of our records and financial documents.  It’s basically a filing system, that has tabs and organization for everything you need for your records.  For my wife, I wanted to make it easy for her to find anything, say insurance papers or auto records, should anything happen.  With the HomeFile system, we can both easily file everything, and find records as needed.

Now, neither of us must depend on the other to handle financial stuff.  This relieves some of the fear and stress around our finances.

Open Accounts and Passwords

With trust and transparency, it is important that we both have access to each other’s accounts.  When we got married, we gave each other Power of Attorney for Finances for all of our accounts, and we also gave each other access to our passwords.  Sometimes, you can’t always see pending transactions in Quicken, or investments take several days to post and update.  As such, we have a list of all our accounts – even our not shared ones like IRAs, with passwords, so we can both access them as needed.  This eliminates any fear of manipulating Quicken numbers or deleting transactions.  If either of us wants to, we can always go and look online for ourselves.

Clear Understand of Expectations

Finally, we both have setup clear expectations for handling money with each other.  For example, we’ve agreed that we can buy food and lunch whenever we want – no need to discuss anything with each other about that type of spending.  However, we’ve set limits on buying things for the house – like furniture or electronics – unless we both agree on it and setup a plan for action.

The bottom line is that we both have solid expectations for each other when it comes to spending money, and so we know what is good and bad to do.

 

Remember, at the end of the day, a happy wife is a happy life.  As such, it is essential that we work to solve my wife’s biggest money fear and make sure she is comfortable with the family finances at all times – whether she physically pays the bills or not.  Sitting up and wondering or worrying is not healthy, and doesn’t make for a good relationship.  This is what worked for us, what has worked for you?

How have you overcome family money fears?

Brian
Brian

Brian is the founder of Kids Ain’t Cheap and is now sharing his journey through parenthood.

 
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Filed Under: Money and Finances Tagged With: Biggest Money Fear, Family Finance, Fear, money, Philosophy Of Money

Tips for Getting Your Kids Excited About Going to the Dentist

January 13, 2011 | 1 Comment

Don't let your kids fear the dentistI have a confession; I love going to the dentist. Most people look at me like I’m crazy when I divulge that little tidbit — but it’s true! I absolutely enjoy getting my teeth cleaned. My favorite part is the gritty polishing toothpaste. To me, it’s like having a spa treatment for my teeth.  I honestly, don’t even mind going to the dentist when I have to get other work done.

I do know that there are people out there who feel the exact opposite. Considering some of the stories I’ve heard; I can’t say that I blame some of them. Not only do they dislike going to the dentist; they actually fear it. Are you one of those people?

I think the reason I like going to the dentist, probably has a lot to do with the fact that I’ve had pretty good experiences. I have sincerely liked all of my dentists, and I’ve really never had any major issues.  My teeth are not perfect. I’ve had my share of cavities, I had extensive orthodontic treatments when I was younger, and getting my wisdom teeth out (all four at once) was a major pain – but all in all, things haven’t been too bad.

Many times when people fear going to the dentist, they put off getting necessary treatments done. These can then grow into bigger —  more painful issues. When they finally can’t take it anymore – and absolutely must go to the dentist – what they had feared would happen (usually pain) can sometimes become a reality.

I really wanted our boys to look forward to going to the dentist. I decided to do my best to make it a fun, and positive experience from the very the first time they sat their little tushies in the dentist chair. I really hope that instilling good dental habits, and getting them comfortable with going for routine check-ups, will help prevent bigger issues; which can then lead to disliking or fearing the dentist.

Here are a few tips that can help your kiddos excited about the dentist.

Start Early

As soon that first little pearly white, makes it’s grand appearance, start brushing. Be sure you use an age appropriate toothbrush and children under the age of 2 should not use a fluoride toothpaste. Getting children used to having their teeth brushed will make it easier for you and the dentist later on.

Educate Yourself

Visit the Parent Resource Center on the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry web site. There you will find straight forward answers from the experts.

You’ll also want to begin your search for the right dentist. Taking your child to a pediatric dentist is ideal. Their offices are usually colorful and full of all kinds of things kids love; toys, cartoons, and video games. Ask as many questions as you need to; to feel confident that your child will receive excellent dental care.

Educate Your Child

Take a trip to your local library or visit amazon.com to find books and/or videos about going to the dentist. These can be a helpful tool in getting your child familiar with the dentist and what to expect when they make their first visit.

In addition, many dental offices are happy to schedule an introduction visit for your child. This is a time when you and your child can go in, they can sit in the dentist chair, see and learn about the different tools the dentist uses, and just get a feel for how things work.

No matter what your past dental experiences may have been, it is important that you do not to project your dental fears onto your child. Keeping a positive attitude, and ensuring your child knows what to expect, can help prepare them for their first visit and get them excited about going to the dentist.

Here’s a great book that can be found on Amazon.com. Just click on the book for more information.

The Berenstain Bears Visit the Dentist (First Time Books(R)) – Paperback (Oct. 12, 1981) by Stan Berenstain and Jan Berenstain

What are some things you have done to get your child excited about going to the dentist or the doctor? Do your kids like going to the dentist? Does your child have a favorite book about going to the dentist?

 

Brian
Brian

Brian is the founder of Kids Ain’t Cheap and is now sharing his journey through parenthood.

 
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Filed Under: Healthy Living & Eating Tagged With: brushing, dental care, Dentist, Fear, Teeth, Toothbrush, toothpaste

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Basic Principles Of Good Parenting

Here some basic principles for good parenting:

  1. What You Do Matters: Your kids are watching you. So, be purposeful about what you want to accomplish.
  2. You Can’t be Too Loving: Don’t replace love with material possessions, lowered expectations or leniency.
  3. Be Involved Your Kids Life: Arrange your priorities to focus on what your kid’s needs. Be there mentally and physically.
  4. Adapt Your Parenting: Children grow quickly, so keep pace with your child’s development.
  5. Establish and Set Rules: The rules you set for children will establish the rules they set for themselves later.  Avoid harsh discipline and be consistent.
  6. Explain Your Decisions: What is obvious to you may not be evident to your child. They don’t have the experience you do.
  7. Be Respectful To Your Child: How you treat your child is how they will treat others.  Be polite, respectful and make an effort to pay attention.
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