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Teaching Honesty: Preventing Lying Habits in Children

April 27, 2025 | Leave a Comment

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Some days, it can feel like your child has a secret agenda—one where the truth is often optional, and their stories seem to shift in every direction. Maybe they told you they “didn’t eat the cookie” while crumbs are still stuck on their face. Or, perhaps they’ve concocted elaborate tales of imaginary adventures—stories so detailed you almost start believing them.

While it’s normal for children to stretch the truth now and then, it’s essential to intervene before lying becomes a regular habit. With the right approach, you can teach your child the value of honesty, turning small fibs into teachable moments that foster trust and integrity for years to come.

Below are five practical strategies that help prevent lying habits and encourage truthfulness in children.

1. Lead by Example: Model Honesty in Your Actions

Children are keen observers, constantly picking up on the behaviors they see around them. If you want your child to value honesty, it starts with you. Kids learn what they see, so it’s important to demonstrate honesty in your daily interactions.

When you make mistakes, own up to them. If you break something by accident or forget a commitment, say so openly and show that admitting mistakes is part of personal growth.

The more your child sees you being truthful—whether it’s apologizing when you’re wrong or giving accurate information—the more they’ll learn to do the same.

Parent shortcut: Next time you’re running late, tell your child honestly, “I’m sorry, I didn’t manage my time well today, and now we’re running behind.

Let’s try to plan better next time!” This shows your child that honesty isn’t about being perfect, but about taking responsibility for your actions.

2. Set Clear Expectations and Consequences

Children thrive on structure and clear guidelines. If they don’t fully understand why telling the truth is important, they might not see why it matters to tell the truth in the first place.

Establish expectations around honesty early on by explaining why it’s important to be truthful and what the consequences are when lying occurs. Make sure the consequences are related to the lie itself and are consistent every time.

For instance, if your child lies about completing a chore, the consequence could be that they lose a privilege, like screen time. It’s not about punishment but about helping them connect the behavior to the outcome.

Tip for consistency: Write down the family’s expectations regarding honesty (e.g., “We tell the truth no matter what”) and hang them on the fridge. When a situation arises, you can point to the expectations and say, “Remember, we always tell the truth here.”

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3. Praise Truthfulness, Big and Small

Just like toddlers thrive on positive reinforcement, older kids do too. Praise your child when they tell the truth, even if the truth is uncomfortable or results in a consequence. Let them know you appreciate their honesty and that telling the truth is always the best choice, no matter how difficult it may seem in the moment.

Be specific in your praise: “I’m really proud of you for telling me the truth about what happened with your homework. That wasn’t easy, but it shows me you’re a person I can trust.” Positive reinforcement encourages your child to keep practicing honesty and internalizing it as a value.

Mini-reward system: Create a simple reward system where your child earns points for every time they tell the truth, even when it’s tough. Once they reach a set amount of points, they can earn a small reward, like a favorite activity or an extra bedtime story.

4. Teach the Value of Trust

Children are capable of understanding abstract concepts like trust, especially when it’s connected to their relationships with the people they care about. Help your child understand that honesty is the foundation of trust in all relationships. If they lie, trust is broken, and it can take time to rebuild.

Use real-life examples: “When you told me you finished your homework, I trusted you. But when I found out it wasn’t done, I felt upset because I couldn’t trust your word. Telling the truth next time helps me trust you more.” Also, discuss what happens when people lie to them. Reinforce the idea that trust is a two-way street, and honesty ensures strong, healthy relationships.

Tip for trust-building: Keep open communication about feelings. If your child is hesitant to share something because they fear consequences, reassure them that honesty is valued more than perfection. When they know they can trust you, they’ll feel safer telling the truth.

5. Encourage Open Conversations and Avoid Overreacting

Sometimes, children lie because they fear punishment or disapproval. If you overreact to a lie, your child may learn to hide things instead of sharing the truth. When you catch your child in a lie, respond calmly and allow them to explain themselves. Ask questions like, “Can you help me understand why you said that?” and allow your child to express their feelings.

This helps create an open dialogue where they feel comfortable admitting mistakes without fear of harsh judgment. Use the opportunity to educate them about honesty and its importance.

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Samantha Warren
Samantha

Samantha Warren is a holistic marketing strategist with 8+ years of experience partnering with startups, Fortune 500 companies, and everything in between. With an entrepreneurial mindset, she excels at shaping brand narratives through data-driven, creative content. When she’s not working, Samantha loves to travel and draws inspiration from her trips to Thailand, Spain, Costa Rica, and beyond.

Filed Under: Parenting Tagged With: behavior management, education, parenting values, Values, Values Children

8 Reasons Why Children Are Priceless

August 7, 2023 | 2 Comments

Reasons Why Children Are Priceless

There seems to be a lot of discussion, constantly, about how expensive children are. While yes, you do have to be financially responsible about having a child, they do not need to be anywhere near as expensive as some ‘studies’ would have you believe. This is a topic I’ve already written about, so today we’re going to chat about the reasons why children are priceless.

I’m not trying to make it seem like having children is all sunshine and roses, because it’s not. It’s far, far from it actually, but having a child will change your life in ways you couldn’t imagine until it happens.

Reasons Why Children Are Priceless

They Inspire Deep Love

You may think you knew what love was before you had a child; trust me I did. I love my husband, my family and my friends but the love you have for your child is something you will have never experienced. The love you have for this tiny little human is indescribable. It changes and shapes every other relationship in your life.

The love you have for your child grows. Though I instinctively wanted to love and protect my child as soon as he was born, the love I have for him and my other two children, is so much different, and intense, than it was on the days they were born.

This idea is best epitomized by Elizabeth Stone’s statement, “Making the decision to have a child is momentous.  It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”

They Spread Happiness

I am truly happy when I am with my children and they are in good moods. You simply cannot be in a bad mood when your happy toddler smiles up at you or when your tweens tell you silly jokes. Their emotions are raw, and you can’t help but feel it with them.

They Teach You Patience

You may be an impatient person, but once you have a child, that has to change.  If you show impatience and anger with your children, they will likely shut down or cry.  Instead, you must gently encourage them so that they can succeed.  (This can be extremely trying when you have to wait by the door for your toddler to slowly put on his shoes by himself because he’s refused your help or when he unbuckles his car seat for the fifth time in one car trip.)

Children will, by their very nature, teach you to be patient.

They Give You a Second Chance at Childhood Joy

Reasons Why Children Are Priceless

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By the time you’re in your twenties and thirties, you likely have lost much of your childhood joy.  You may no longer take joy in driving around the neighborhood looking at Christmas lights or the first snowfall of the season.  Once you have a child, all of that changes.

As you watch your young children grow excited for Christmas, you do, too.  When your child gleefully opens the presents under the Christmas tree, you will likely feel a spark of excitement again.  When you bundle your child up to go out in the first snowfall, you will suddenly delight in building a snowman and making snow angels.  Children give you a second chance at childhood joy.

They Are Brutally Honest

Kids are honest. Kids force you to be honest. Honest about yourself and about your life. When your child is born you are suddenly hyper aware of every detail in your life. From your financial life to the mess on your bedside table. Children inadvertently have a way of forcing us to be honest about our lives.

It was having a child that forced us to finally get serious about getting out of debt rather than living with it in limbo.

They Are Humbling

Becoming a parent is one of, if not the most, humbling experience in the world. No amount of research, parenting book reading or doctors appointments can ever prepare you for your child and the experiences  you will go through as a parent. I think being humbled is an important trait for people and if you’ve yet to experience it, having a kid will do it for sure.

They Make You Less Self-Centered

Before you have children, you may not realize you’re self-centered, but you are.  You likely have your own routine, your own rituals, that give you joy.  Yet, when you have a child, all of that discipline and focus on yourself and what makes you feel good is upended.  You get much less sleep in the baby stage, and your life and schedule suddenly revolve around the baby’s.

Reasons Why Children Are Priceless

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When your kids get older, your life still centers around your children and their education and their activities.  Sure, as kids get older and become more independent, you will be able to do more things for, and spend more time on, yourself.  However, you don’t get your life back as truly your own until your kids move out.  By then, you won’t want to go back to the self-centered years before you had kids.

They Give You Perspective

Having a child puts your life in a whole new perspective. Suddenly everything else in life is so much less important. You wonder what you did with your time before, and you wonder how you possibly lived your life without this person in it.

For the rest of your life, your children will shape and change your world, and that’s a beautiful thing.

Final Thoughts

Having a child is the hardest, yet most rewarding thing you can ever possibly do in your life.  Yes, they are expensive, but don’t believe that kids are as expensive to raise as the experts would have you believe.  Besides, what they give back in their love and the way they make you grow as a person are some of the reasons why children are priceless.

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Editors Note: If you’re interested in checking out an up and coming new personal finance blog, consider reading kidwealth.com.  Its got several articles similar to this one.

Melissa Batai
Melissa Batai

Melissa is a writer and virtual assistant. She earned her Master’s from Southern Illinois University, and her Bachelor’s in English from the University of Michigan. When she’s not working, you can find her homeschooling her kids, reading a good book, or cooking. She resides in Arizona where she dislikes the summer heat but loves the natural beauty of the area.

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Basic Principles Of Good Parenting

Here some basic principles for good parenting:

  1. What You Do Matters: Your kids are watching you. So, be purposeful about what you want to accomplish.
  2. You Can’t be Too Loving: Don’t replace love with material possessions, lowered expectations or leniency.
  3. Be Involved Your Kids Life: Arrange your priorities to focus on what your kid’s needs. Be there mentally and physically.
  4. Adapt Your Parenting: Children grow quickly, so keep pace with your child’s development.
  5. Establish and Set Rules: The rules you set for children will establish the rules they set for themselves later.  Avoid harsh discipline and be consistent.
  6. Explain Your Decisions: What is obvious to you may not be evident to your child. They don’t have the experience you do.
  7. Be Respectful To Your Child: How you treat your child is how they will treat others.  Be polite, respectful and make an effort to pay attention.
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