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What To Do When You Are Overspending at Christmas

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Overspending at Christmas

I have a confession.

I overspent my Christmas budget.

(And I’m not done shopping.)

Overspending At Christmas

I did everything right. I made a list of who I was shopping for and created an overall budget. All was going well until I deviated from my plan.

Typically I plan a vacation for Christmas. I prefer to gift experiences to my family over wrapped presents. Last year, we went to Disney World. The year before, we went to Great Wolf Lodge.

However, this year, my daughter wanted a saddle, and my son had been asking for some 1000+ piece Lego sets. These were items I’d buy for my kids outside of Christmas, so I thought let’s go ahead and have Santa buy them. We’ll stay home this year and spend our budget on Christmas presents.

I also expected this would create a more relaxed Christmas. I wouldn’t have to coordinate the logistics of travel, and I wasn’t planning to buy much for Christmas. After all, the presents I was going to buy weren’t extra for the sake of Christmas.

I was wrong.

It’s not more relaxed and I’m buying more presents than what was on my list.

Creating A Budget Buffer

Something I always do is that I plan to go over budget ahead of time. I do this by creating a budget buffer – usually 5 to 10% of my overall budget. Because overspending at Christmas is not an unrealistic scenario.

Since we’re home this year, I’ve been more inclined to accept invitations to Christmas parties. Also, because we are home, we’re going to my in-laws Christmas morning. This added additional people to shop for that were not on my original list.

But good plans are fluid, so I adjusted the budget per person to accommodate the extras.

Another thing that surprised me is my kids wanted to buy presents for other people. I appreciate this, and it was a simple budget obstacle to overcome.

They pitched ideas on what they would do in exchange for extra money. I was able to secure some “maid” service for the next few weeks in exchange for some small gifts. The amounts were small enough that it didn’t set me over budget because I had built in a buffer for unexpected purchases.

Plan For Budget Obstacles

What I didn’t expect was nostalgia to travel over Christmas. Impulsively, I booked a 3-day trip to Legoland. I paid the full price for the hotel room and park tickets. I was able to use miles for two of our plane tickets and paid for the other two. This was the primary reason that led to my overspending at Christmas.

So what am I going to do now that I’m WAY over budget?

Good plans should be fluid and be able to accommodate roadblocks.

I have to sacrifice in other areas of my budget. I reduced the amount my husband is allowed to spend on me and I pulled from our travel savings account to cover the hotel and tickets.

To pay for the plane tickets, I pulled from January’s budget by cutting expenses. Food was cut back, clothing was eliminated, and I cut the flash cash budget in half.

What I Learned

Through this process, I have been reminded of how grateful I am that:

1) I have set my budget up to accommodate impulse decisions – knowing this is standard behavior for me,
2) I have diversified my income so that I know I can generate some back-up income when I needed, and
3) I am committed to remaining debt-free. A few years ago, I would’ve slapped the trip on a credit card and not thought twice about taking two years to pay for it.

 

Have you gone over budget this Christmas? How do you handle impulse purchases? Is your budget set up to accommodate your personality? Let us know in the comments.

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Are Parents Legally Obligated To Pay For College

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Are Parents Legally Obligated To Pay For College

In August 2013, a New Jersey girl sued her parents for the cost of her college tuition. Caitlyn Ricci won that case in 2014, and the decision was upheld in court later that year. The details of the lawsuit is worthy of soap opera. Amongst which is that Ms. Ricci is estranged from her parents for failure to follow the rules laid out by her parents. While we leave the legal merits of the case up to the judges, it begs the question, are parents are legally obligated to pay for college.

This topic is particularly personal for me. We save money for our children’s college. However, I don’t necessarily plan on spending that money on college. My parents didn’t pay for my college. The education I gained from that alone was worth as much as the cost of my degree.

There is No Hard and Fast Answer

While there is no black and white answer, there are some signs that point to yes, parents are expected to contribute financially to their children’s higher education. This may not always come in the form of payment for a child’s tuition; it can be through other means of financial support, such as providing housing or transportation.

The State You Live In Matters

The case referenced above was filed in the state of New Jersey, which is a progressive state in terms of state laws that have been established which define parental requirements in terms of financial contribution towards a college education.

Each state sets its own laws, and some states such as California are on the other end of the spectrum and limit parental obligations. Overall, there is no specific requirement for parents to pay for their children’s college education in most states. However, if a parent is divorced, this may be a game-changer.

It Will Depend On The Parents Marital Status

The obligation is more strict when the parents are divorced.

When a marriage ends in divorce, and parents and children get involved, the parent with custodial rights generally receives some sort of financial contribution from the other parent. This is agreed upon as part of the divorce settlement, and higher education costs are typically included in the agreement.

Again, each state will differ – here is a breakdown of requirements by state.

The Child Must Participate In The Cost

There is an expectation that the child should make a reasonable attempt to contribute to their college education. In the case referenced above, Ms. Ricci’s parents appealed on the grounds that she did not apply for all applicable scholarships and loans. The claim was ultimately rejected in favor of the parents due to the fact Ms. Ricci was emancipated from her parents. Thus she showed intent to be independent of her parents. The court applied that independence to financial support, as well.

 

Do you think parents should be legally obligated to pay for college? Are you planning to pay for yours? Share your opinion in the comments below.

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A Guide for Building A Child Trust Fund

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Child Trust Fund Guide

A child trust fund isn’t just for the Rockefellers and the Rothschilds of the world. They’re also for normal moms like you and me who want to leave a legacy for our children and our grandchildren, but you also need a child trust fund guide.

What Is A Child Trust Fund

Trust funds are a financial tool associated with estate planning. They represent a separate legal entity that holds assets such as cash and property for the future benefit of a child.  

Three terms that are helpful to understand are:

  • Trustee – the beneficiary of the trust, or the child
  • Grantor – the person who set up the trust
  • Trustee – the person or company that manages the assets of the trust

Why Do You Need One And How Does It Differ From A Will

The primary benefits of a trust include tax savings for the grantor and asset protection for the beneficiary.

A trust allows for the distribution of funds over time for a specific event, for example, monthly distributions to pay for a grandchild’s college expenses. With a trust, this is possible before the grantor’s death. A will does not go into effect until a person dies.

With a trust, the specific conditions set by the grantor are met. Where this is different than a will, is the property passed on through a will must enter probate, which can get messy, can cause delays, and can cost extra money. A trust is done outside of the court system so that you can avoid probate.

Types of Child Trust Funds

The most popular type of Child Trust fund falls under the term, Irrevocable Trust Funds (ITF). There are two major types of ITFs – Section 2503 (b) and Section 2503 (c).

Section 2503 (b) Minor Trust Fund – Qualifies for the annual gift tax exclusion based on current limitations. Distributions of the trust income to the child or a custodial bank account must be made on a yearly basis or more frequent basis. Access to the principal at the age of 21 is not required.

Section 2503 (c) Minor Trust Fund – Qualifies for the annual gift tax exclusion. All the money (both principal and income) in the trust must be transferred to the child at the age of 21.

How To Set One Up

There is a lot to consider when setting up a trust fund for your children. Not only are there legal and tax issues to consider, but you’ll also have an emotional impact to think about. For example, you’ll need to consider the individual personalities of your children. Do you believe they will be mature enough to receive a significant distribution of assets at the age of 21? If the answer is no, you’ll want to avoid the Section 2503 (c) fund.

Seek out the counsel of a qualified estate attorney during the process of setting up your trust. Their experience with the federal and state laws will ensure you, your children, and your assets are adequately protected.  

Do you have any experience setting up a trust fund for your kids? Tell us about it in the comments below.

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Four Money Habits You Need To Teach Your Children

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money habits for kids

If you want your child to grow up as a financially independent adult, start teaching them money habits young. Today, I’m talking about four money habits you need to teach your kids if you don’t want them living at home until they’re in their thirties.

1. Delayed Gratification

As technology has changed throughout the years, we’ve adapted to receiving instant gratification. Think about how irritated you become when it takes longer than two days to receive a shipment. Thanks, Amazon Prime! When you don’t know an answer, it takes less than 60 seconds to search for the answer. Thanks, Google!

While these are amazing benefits of living in our modern world, having instant access to whatever we desire can lead to bad habits. Force your children to wait for something they want, even if it’s just a few minutes. For example, increase their allowance by 10% if they wait for payment on Saturday, instead of Friday. Small changes in your day-to-day living that delay access can lead to increased resistance to instant gratification for your child.

2. Compound Interest

Go beyond teaching your children the value of saving. Teach them the benefits of saving early, specifically how compound interest can grow their money over time.

You’ll want to keep the concept simple and age-appropriate. You can pay compound interest on their allowance while encouraging them to save up for something specific (say the latest video game). If you’re struggling with coming up with a way to teach them, consider this marshmallow game.

3. Live Below Your Means

I know with my kids, the minute I hand over their allowance, they’re already figuring out how many Pokemon cards they can buy. I have to remind them to split their money up into giving, spending, and saving categories. We even have these special piggy banks to make it fun.

While using this 3x concept, they’re learning to save and give, which is amazing. However, I’m more interested in teaching them to live below their means. When they get ready to buy their first home, I want them to laugh at what the bank is offering them for a mortgage. They’ll instinctively know that they don’t want to spend as much as they can afford. Instead, they’ll understand the value in living below their means, so they have additional money to fund their emergency fund and to put in the church plate, and to help a friend out in need without requiring them to repay the loan.

4. Creating A Positive Money Story

As we grow into adults, we create our own money story, and that money story is directly attributable to how we spend and save our money. Help your children the best money story for themselves, one that will provide them with a strong sense of balance between saving and spending.

While her program is not kid-related, Natalie Bacon’s course, Money Mindset for Her, is where I learned how my money story was leading to poor money habits, specifically to overspending. She taught me to change that story, and it continues to have a positive impact on my life a year later. If you’re not clear on your money story, consider giving her course a try. Then teach the principles to your kiddos. And even better, teach by example.

Lastly, it is important you make sure that you are making the lessons you teach your children relatable and memorable in some way. You may consider getting toys that teach kids about money, like these. You may also have good luck finding some money games to play with them as well. The most important this is you are passing down your knowledge of finance.

Do you have any additional money tips for kids? Let us know in the comments below.

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Best Tips To Teach Your Child How To Meditate

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Studies are showing that when children learn how to meditate, they learn how to handle their emotions better and are capable of self-soothing when situations arise. No matter how old your children are, it’s never too late or too early to teach them a few practices. Teaching them also ensures that you are also taking some time out to do a bit of meditative practice. Here are some of the best tips I can give you on teaching your children this invaluable skill.

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Things To Do When The Kids Say “I’m Bored!”

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Bored Kids

It happens more than we care to admit. Sometimes our lives are just not that exciting to our kids and they get bored easily. Or maybe it’s been raining for days on end and the kids are suffering from cabin fever. That’s it, we will just say that is what it is. When my kids announce loudly (it’s always loud and dramatic, isn’t it?) how bored they are, I have an activity jar of things they have to do. It doesn’t matter what they pull, they are committed to doing it. Here are suggestions of things you can put into the jar and save your own sanity in the process.

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4 Tips to Save on Car Insurance for Teens

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Kid’s ain’t cheap, and it gets worse as they get older. Nothing hits harder than when your child learns to drive, and when they are ready for college. For me, adding my child to my car insurance was filled with “my baby is growing up” emotions stabbing my heart and “how on earth are we going to afford this” on repeat through my head. They are normal, but you’ll need to find ways to tackle these thoughts. Here are some ways I learned to save some extra cash on car insurance for teens.

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The Importance of Family Dinner and How to Bring Back This Tradition

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the importance of family dinnerWe all know that there are countless reasons why family dinner is so important to the health of your family relationships. The problem is, life gets in the way. Soccer practices, recitals, rehearsals, meetings, clubs, and spiritual engagements can clog our calendars in a heartbeat. Rather than focus on the actual food, I wanted to share with you the ways you can focus on the importance of family dinner and bringing back the tradition. Hopefully, these suggestions can help you manage your family a little bit easier.

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Owlet Smart Sock 2 Review: Is the Owlet Worth It?

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is the owlet worth itBringing home your baby from the hospital is a joyous occasion, but it’s also scary, especially for first-time parents. You may be even more scared if your child has health issues. For this reason, many parents turn to baby monitors for help. The Owlet Smart Sock 2 is the most unique type of baby monitor on the market. Created by Kurt Workman, Zack Bomsta, and Jordan Monroe, the Smart Sock is getting rave reviews after just a few years on the market. Is the Owlet worth it? Here’s what you should know.

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Car Seat Recommendations: How To Find The Right One For Your Child

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car seat recommendations

Children of the 70s and 80s rode in the front seat of the car with their parents and sometimes in the back of a truck unrestrained. Nowadays, we know it’s safer to make sure our children are properly restrained. From the time a child is born until the child is between eight and ten, parents need to have a car seat.

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5 Ways to Buy Cheap Christmas Gifts for Kids

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5 ways to find cheap Christmas gifts for kids.Some people shop all year long for Christmas. Others wait until December 24th. Wherever you fit in that spectrum, you still want to score a deal. Americans spend $830 billion on Christmas, according to a 2013 statistic. If you’re looking for cheap Christmas gifts for kids, then here are five tips that will help.

(Got any kids 5 and under? Here’s a great list of gift ideas for them!)

SnagShout

If you’re a fan of Amazon, especially around the holidays, then check out SnagShout.com. It offers hundreds of deeply discounted products you can purchase in exchange for a review.

How does SnagShout work:

  • Browse their merchandise to see if there is something you’d like to purchase. Often these products are marked 60% to 90% off. Some products are even free.
  • You’ll be given a specific SnagShout code to enter at check out.
  • These are Amazon products, so you’ll be automatically transferred to Amazon to complete your purchase.
  • Once you’ve received and tried out the product, you must leave a review on Amazon to complete your agreement with SnagShout.
  • After that, you’re permitted to shop for your next SnagShout product.

Giving SnagShout products as gifts is tricky since you do need to leave a review. I’m certainly not suggesting you lie because that’s unethical and could get you banned from SnagShout. The best solution is to purchase the item for your child, let him play with it, then ask what he thinks. You could also purchase an item of which you’re already familiar and leave a review based on what you already know.

Off-season clearance racks

Fall and spring are great times of the year for garage sales. Every changing season brings a deep discount (i.e. end of summer, back to school, end of winter, etc.). If there are huge discounts on summer clothes during the fall, then you could score some big savings on next year’s summer wardrobe and give them as Christmas presents.

Swagbucks

If gift cards and online shopping are your preferred methods for finding cheap Christmas gifts for kids, then look up Swagbucks. This is one of the most popular survey + reward sites because it offers a wide variety of ways to earn. They include:

  • Searching the Web
  • Online shopping
  • Surveys
  • Watching videos
  • Playing games

You could earn points the next time you shop online at Toys R Us, Target, Old Navy, or the Disney Store. Cash in your points for free gift cards for Amazon, PayPal, Walmart, Target, Visa and more.

Click here to sign up for your free Swagbucks account.

Make gifts

Cheap Christmas gifts for kids come in every shape in size. One of my favorite things about Pinterest is that there are so many options for making awesome gifts for your awesome kids. Not everything is cheaper to make at home than it is in the store. However, I encourage you to at least consider this route, especially if time is on your side. I made a no-sew blanket for each of my babies, and could easily work on it while I watched a movie. Fabric stores often have coupons for supplies, so I saved money and gave my kids something homemade they’ll have for a long time from their not-that-crafty mom.

Actually, probably the best gift for boys is to buy them a soldering iron and a bunch of inductors.  Then have them build circuits or the like.  That will increase their knowledge of science and their manual dexterity.

Groupon

One of the coolest gifts you can give your kids is the gift of experiences. Groupon is a great resource for discounted events and adventures. Search “Groupon + Your City” to find some kid-friendly events happening near you.

Do you start Christmas shopping before or after Thanksgiving? Tell us in the comments below?

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